Is it ok to fudge while man shopping online?
Posted by hammer on March 9, 2008
Hey I just noticed you answer questions. Here’s one of about a million I have. Since your married you may be unfamiliar with how things are on dating sites but generally speaking men look for women that are younger than they are which leaves only older men for women who are in their late 30-s and 40’s.
So if a 41 year old woman wants to meet a guy that is 40 – 45 she’s probably going to be looked over for women who are 25 – 35. To get around that some women lie about their ages and say they are younger just to get their foot in the door (so to speak) and get some guys their age looking at them rather than men who are in their late 40’s to early 60’s.
Question: Is this acceptable? I personally have not done this because I don’t want to start a relationship based on a lie. But I do see why some women feel compelled to “stretch the truth” in order to meet guys their age.
Your thoughts are appreciated.
Trying to help a sista,
B
Dear B:
I have personally known and known of several people that fib about their age, weight, marital status, job,kids, wealth etc.. on online dating sites. Pretty much all they get is trouble.
There is also a really good chance that the other side is lying too. (Remind me to tell you a story later)
Look at it this way: 41 isn’t old and you may have not heard that there is a new hot trend going on where women of your age group are considered attractive and desirable by men of all ages.
Be yourself, be proud and reap the rewards of your age, wisdom and intelligence.
Best of luck to you and don’t be taken for a ride by any chumps.
Hammer
